October 17: The Mole in Your Relationship

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Topic: The Mole in Your Relationship

Key Texts:

“Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge.”





Hebrews 13:4

“The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.”
Psalm 34:18

Reflection

Infidelity is like a mole in a relationship, hidden at first yet destructive over time. In research and in ministry it has become clear how far-reaching the impact can be on couples and families. Because of stigma and shame, many choose to keep it secret. They continue to attend church, put on smiles, and function outwardly, while silently struggling with the hurt and broken trust that lingers.

The faithful partner often wrestles with painful questions: Where did I go wrong? How did I miss the signs? The betrayer also suffers in silence, carrying guilt and remorse, yet the focus usually remains on the wounded spouse. Too often the conversations that could begin the journey of healing are avoided. Yet healing cannot begin without openness. Scripture reminds us in Ephesians 4:25, “Therefore putting away lying, speak every man truth with his neighbour, for we are members one of another.” Truth is the first step to restoration.

Infidelity violates not only trust but also the sacred covenant of marriage. Malachi 2:14 reminds us that the Lord Himself is witness between husband and wife. It says, “She is your companion and your wife by covenant.” When this covenant is broken, it brings deep pain, but it also opens the door for God to show His power to restore.

Is there hope? Yes, there is hope. Jesus declared in Matthew 19:26, “With men this is impossible; but with God all things are possible.” Couples who choose humility, repentance, and forgiveness can rebuild their relationship, though the journey is neither quick nor easy. God’s Spirit gives the strength to endure and the wisdom to take one step at a time.

Forgiveness is one of the most difficult parts of recovery, but it is also one of the most essential. Colossians 3:13 teaches us, “Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you.” This does not dismiss the pain or minimise the betrayal, but it releases the hurt into the hands of God who alone can heal.

In truth, the mole of infidelity does not need to destroy a marriage completely. When couples decide to confront it prayerfully and honestly, with the help of wise counsel and the grace of God, they can move from brokenness to renewal. Scars may remain, but they can become testimonies of God’s redeeming love and a witness to others that His grace is sufficient.

Prayer

Gracious Father,
You are the One who binds up the brokenhearted and restores what has been lost. Today we bring before You marriages that are weighed down by the pain of infidelity. Give courage to speak the truth in love, humility to repent, patience to rebuild trust, and grace to forgive. Remind every couple that with You there is always hope, for what is impossible with man is possible with God. May homes become places of healing and may marriages reflect the covenant love of Christ and His Church. In Jesus’ name, Amen.


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