September 10: Serving Each Other with Joy

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 Her Marriage and Relationship

By Sharon Campbell Danvers | Daughters Arise Ministries


Serving Each Other with Joy

Galatians 5:13 Serving Selflessly

Scripture Focus:
“You, my brothers and sisters, were called to be free. But do not use your freedom to indulge the flesh; rather, serve one another humbly in love.”
Galatians 5:13 (NIV)

Devotional Reflection:
A few years ago, I pulled up at a petrol station and waited patiently to be served. After some time, I became concerned. No one approached me. I waited, watching as other drivers who arrived after me were quickly attended to. Frustrated, I inquired about the reason for this apparent injustice. The attendant calmly pointed out that I had parked at a self-service pump. I had never used one before.

I felt humbled as I reversed and moved to the correct pump. But that moment stayed with me. It may seem humorous, but it raises a deeper question: How many of us enter marriage expecting to be served, only to find ourselves waiting in dismay, feeling overlooked and unfulfilled?

This is a harsh reality for many couples. One or both partners are parked at “self-service,” waiting to be catered to, yet unwilling to serve in return. Over time, this unmet expectation can lead to bitterness, loneliness, and detachment.

So, how do we guard against this mindset? How do we serve our spouses with joy, even when we ourselves are tired, stressed, or feeling underappreciated?

For years, I struggled with back pain. In those difficult mornings, my husband would joyfully bend down to lotion my feet. It was not a grand gesture, but it was a meaningful act of love. He never complained, never made me feel like a burden. He simply served with joy.

When we serve with joy, something powerful happens:

We reflect the heart of Christ, who came not to be served, but to serve (Matthew 20:28).

We sow seeds of love and humility that strengthen the bond of marriage.

We silence selfishness and make room for grace.

We model mutual honour, creating a safe place for both partners to thrive.

Serving with joy does not mean suppressing your needs; it means embracing them. It means choosing love over ego, compassion over convenience. It means being willing to “bend low” for one another, not out of duty, but out of delight.

Reflection Questions:

  1. In what ways can you serve your spouse this week—with joy?

  2. Are there areas where you have expected to be served but not offered the same in return?

  3. How does joyful service mirror the character of Christ in your home?

Prayer:
Gracious Father,
Thank You for loving me with such sacrificial, joyful love. Teach me to serve my spouse with the same spirit—not out of obligation, but with joy and humility. Help me to let go of selfish expectations and choose kindness, especially in the quiet, everyday moments. May our acts of service be a reflection of Your grace and a source of strength in our marriage.
In Jesus’ name, Amen.

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