October 18: Whose Calling?

Whose Calling? 

Key Texts:

“Can two walk together, except they be agreed?”
Amos 3:3

“And whatsoever ye do, do it heartily, as to the Lord, and not unto men.”
Colossians 3:23

Reflection

One of the challenges we sometimes encounter in ministry-centred relationships is when one spouse receives a call to serve in ways the other did not expect. There was once a couple who began their marriage in great happiness. The husband was not a pastor at the time, but a few years later he felt the call of God and entered pastoral ministry. The wife was not pleased and expressed that she had not married a pastor. Over time, their differences grew, and they eventually separated.

While many factors may have contributed to the separation, the question remains: if one partner receives a calling, does the other need to share the same calling for the marriage to thrive?

Scripture reminds us that the call of God is personal. When the Lord called Jeremiah, He said, “Before I formed thee in the belly I knew thee, and before thou camest forth out of the womb I sanctified thee, and I ordained thee a prophet unto the nations” (Jeremiah 1:5). God calls individuals for His purpose. Yet when marriage is formed, two lives become one. This means that while the call may be personal, its impact is shared within the home.

For the marriage to thrive, understanding, unity, and support are essential. Amos 3:3 asks, “Can two walk together, except they be agreed?” Agreement does not always mean sharing the same role or title, but it does mean sharing the same heart and direction. A spouse may not be called to preach, but they can be called to stand in prayer, to encourage, to provide stability at home, and to help create balance.

The key attitudes are humility, open communication, and mutual respect. Both partners must be willing to have honest conversations about expectations, boundaries, and family responsibilities. Colossians 3:23 reminds us, “Whatsoever ye do, do it heartily, as to the Lord.” When both husband and wife surrender their gifts, time, and hearts to God, He can bring harmony to the marriage and fruitfulness to the ministry.

Prayer

Heavenly Father,
We thank You for the gift of calling and for the sacred covenant of marriage. We ask for wisdom for couples navigating the challenges of ministry. Teach them to walk in agreement, to communicate with love, and to support one another’s purpose. Where there is tension, bring peace. Where there is fear, bring assurance. May every couple remember that they serve not only in public ministry but also in the ministry of their home. Strengthen them to honour You together, and let their relationship be a witness of Your grace. In Jesus’ name, Amen. 🙏🏾