September 7: Forgiving Like Christ

Forgiving Like Christ

Colossians 3:13 Forgiveness Strengthens Bonds
By Sharon Campbell Danvers | Daughters Arise Ministries

Scripture Focus:
“Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you.”
Colossians 3:13

“You really hurt my feelings and expect me to forgive you?”

“How can I forgive something like this?”
“I might forgive, but I will never forget.”

If we are honest, we have all had thoughts like these at some point in our marriage or relationships. Each of us carries stories, some small, others deeply painful, that challenge our ability to forgive. We often categorize situations: some are “easy” to ignore, while others we place outside the reach of grace. Yet, forgiveness is not about fairness. It is about obedience and healing.

Let me state clearly: forgiveness does not mean accepting abuse. If you are in an abusive situation, physically, emotionally, or spiritually, do not stay silent. Seek help. God does not condone harm, and neither should we.

But for the everyday struggles in marriage, misunderstandings, harsh words, broken promises, selfishness, choosing forgiveness is choosing freedom. It is the glue that holds broken pieces together and the oil that keeps love flowing.

Truthfully, we must extend the same to others to receive the fullness of Christ’s grace and forgiveness. Jesus made no exceptions. He forgave freely and thoroughly and calls us to do the same.

I must confess a personal struggle. Sometimes I find it difficult to verbally express forgiveness. Instead, I try to show it through my actions by being kind, making peace, or moving forward. But I have learned that for some, especially our spouses, hearing the words “I forgive you” can be just as important as seeing the change. Your partner’s love language may require verbal confirmation of affection. Saying, “I was wrong. I hurt you. Please forgive me,” is a powerful act of humility that reflects Christ.

We are not left without examples. One that stands out is Joseph in the book of Genesis. After being betrayed by his brothers, sold into slavery, falsely accused, and imprisoned, he rose to power in Egypt. When his brothers came to him in need, he had every reason to seek revenge, but instead, he forgave. His words in Genesis 50:20 echo the heart of forgiveness: “You intended to harm me, but God intended it for good.” Joseph’s choice to forgive preserved a family and fulfilled a divine purpose.

Forgiveness is not weakness; it is strength. It is not forgetting; it is remembering with mercy. It is not letting someone off the hook; it is choosing to walk in the freedom of grace.

In marriage, forgiveness does not erase pain, but it restores intimacy. It breaks down walls and builds bridges. It aligns our hearts with Christ, who forgave us completely, even when we least deserved it.

Reflection Questions:

Is there an unresolved issue in your marriage that requires forgiveness?

How does Christ’s example challenge your approach to giving and receiving forgiveness?

What step can you take today to open the door to reconciliation?

Prayer:
Lord Jesus, thank You for the mercy and forgiveness You have shown me. Teach me to extend the same grace to my spouse. When I am hurt, give me the courage to forgive. When I am wrong, help me to humble myself and seek forgiveness. May our marriage be strengthened by Your love and marked by continual grace. Restore what has been broken, and draw us closer as we walk in the power of forgiveness. In Jesus’ name, Amen.